Here’s a bold statement: one of Britain’s most beloved actresses has been living a life that challenges traditional norms—and she says it’s the secret to her happiness. But here’s where it gets controversial: Brenda Blethyn, the iconic star of Vera and Pride & Prejudice, has revealed that she and her husband of 15 years, Michael Mayhew, live in separate flats. Yes, you read that right. And this isn’t just a quirky arrangement—it’s a growing trend known as ‘Living Apart Together’ (LAT). But does it really work? Brenda insists it does, and her story is both fascinating and thought-provoking.
Best known for her role as the sharp yet dishevelled DCI Vera Stanhope in ITV’s long-running crime drama Vera, Brenda has always marched to the beat of her own drum. Her recent interview with The Telegraph shed light on this unconventional setup. ‘We live together, but in different apartments,’ she explained. ‘It works brilliantly. We eat together, go out together, but having our own space means we can enjoy the little things—like choosing what to watch on TV or having friends over without stepping on each other’s toes.’
And this is the part most people miss: LAT isn’t just about physical separation; it’s about maintaining independence while nurturing a deep connection. Brenda and Michael, who met in 1975 at the National Theatre (where he later became art director), tied the knot in 2010. Today, they share a beloved 10-year-old cockerpoo named Jack, who often accompanies Brenda to work. ‘Oh, I love that dog,’ she gushed. ‘He’s like my constant companion.’
Brenda’s career has been nothing short of stellar. From her Golden Globe and BAFTA wins to her recent joint Best Performance award at the Tribeca Film Festival for Dragonfly, she’s a force to be reckoned with. In Dragonfly, she plays Elsie, an elderly woman navigating the harsh realities of elder care, alongside Andrea Riseborough. The film, available in cinemas from 7 November, promises to be a poignant exploration of aging, friendship, and family dynamics.
But let’s circle back to the LAT trend. Brenda isn’t alone in this lifestyle. Succession star Brian Cox has also embraced it with his wife. ‘Having your own space has a lot to say for itself,’ Brenda noted. ‘It’s about respecting each other’s needs while staying deeply connected.’
Here’s the controversial question: Could living apart actually strengthen a relationship? Or is it a recipe for emotional distance? Brenda’s story challenges us to rethink what partnership means in the modern age. What do you think? Is LAT something you’d consider, or does it go against everything you believe about commitment? Let’s spark a conversation in the comments—I’m eager to hear your thoughts!
